"Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny."

―Lao Tzu

In a 2018 anti-bullying campaign, the furniture store Ikea gathered a group of kids and a couple of plants together.

Each of the two plants were given the same amount of sunlight, nutrition, and water (remember Jr. High? This is the “control group"). The only difference between the two plants were the instructions given to the kids (the independent variable… or maybe this is the experimental group…?).

For 30 days, the kids were asked to insult one plant and talk kindly to the other.

Here are some examples of what was said…

“You look rotten”
“Are you even alive?”
“I like you the way you are”
“You’re making a difference in the world”


So what happened?

One plant thrived, one plant wilted and drooped.

Is it actual “science”? 

It’s a furniture store, so, not super scientific, but, our takeaway is if a plant without ears or emotions can objectively be affected by words and tone, what does that mean for us?

What does that mean for the way you talk to yourself?

What if you ran a 30-day experiment where you did nothing but ridicule yourself?

What if for 30 days you were your best friend hyping up all the best things about yourself?

We’re about as scientifically qualified as Ikea but we’re willing to bet this experiment doesn’t need to happen to know which of those would have an overall wildly better outcome.


Would you agree?

If so, how long can you go without beating yourself up?

What needs to happen for that answer to be “forever”?


"Thank you" - You

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